Society is out of balance—war, hate, division, terror, shooting, economic turmoil
Organizations are out of balance—power, politics, miscommunication, conflict, apathy, learned helplessness, "I hate my job" "I can't find a job"
Kids are out of balance—girls’ hazing, house destruction videos, shooting
Individuals are out of balance—tired, hopeless, helpless, depressed—looking for relief in drugs (lately a stunning increase in pharmaceuticals); running on a hamster trail always striving…for what? American Dream turning into a Nightmare, average person watches TV 2 months a year, reality show pre-occupation, 75% obesity rate, perfectionist to procrastination to paralysis...We lose ourselves in the search for material short-term satisfaction…many asking..."is this all there is?"
How do we find Balance? What is an Answer?
Take Reality...there is no "happily ever after". Wake up and smell the roses AND the fertilizer. I myself thought that once I had my career, a man, a child, that life would become magically happy. But the good bad and ugly of life has a habit of interjecting itself every day. There are not-so-positive AND wonderful interactions with my family, there are illnesses with loved ones, there are illnesses in my own body. There are politics and successes and unfairness at work and in my play. That is what life is…a bed of roses on top of stinky but helpful manure. So quit trying to avoid feeling human, and stop immersing ourselves in busywork, doing—doing—doing—often ending in "doo-doo". After all, we’re Human Beings not Human Doings. Reality is so much more gloriously complex than Happily Ever After. So ENJOY BEING FULLY ALIVE!
Take Responsibility…for who we are and are not, for what we have and have not, for who we want to be. Life isn't fair sometimes, and people who shouldn't hurt us, do. "Can't change the past so don't dwell on it" seems is good in theory, but what actually happens is like the pressure in a garbage truck crusher...sooner or later toxic gasses escape. We need to deal thoroughly with our pain and anger, and then make new conscious purposeful choices for our present. If we don't deal with our past...it WILL deal with you, often consciously/unconsciously sabotaging your relationships at work and at home. What is the Balance between denial and wallowing in the past?
Take up Purposeful Living…taking care of yourself so that you are not living in a sea of automatic drama, bobbing helplessly from event to event, reacting reflexively and hurting yourself and others in the process. I have a friend who has, not an answering machine but a questioning machine which asks, "Who Are You? and What Do You Want?". Self-care begins with answering these questions courageously and thoroughly so that you are not defined by, or looking for constant validation by others. Purposeful living is a kinder gentler approach to your life...and most importantly, learning how to love and find fulfillment in and by ourselves.
aka BEST CASE SCENARIO
WHAT IF...Life wasn't about waiting till weekends and retirement to enjoy it?
WHAT IF...Life wasn't about dying with the most toys?
WHAT IF...Happiness wasn't fleeting?
WHAT IF...We could stop negative habits that keep us angry & frustrated?
WHAT IF...Everyday we could live with healthy minds, bodies and spirits?
WHAT IF...We could spend less time regretting the pain from our past?
WHAT IF...We could spend less time worrying about the future?
WHAT IF...We could live every day with a sense of peace and fulfillment?
WHAT IF...We could feel good about ourselves and others most of the time?
WHAT IF...We could be happy 88 percent of the time?
To LiveLoveLaughLearn in a
To walk through the pain of one’s past
and the fear of one’s future and arrive at the door of the present and receive each day as a gift, and make the choice to Open my life.
To know from the bottom of one’s soul
to the top of one’s first chakra that all my needs are met, no matter what. For in Harmony we are all nourished.
To be addicted to JOY, to have what we want and want what we have, to know that the LOVE we have been searching for
is right inside of ourselves. This is Balance.
Do you want more joy and less stress at work? Do you want more Balance in your life? Are you tired of being tired? Then invite Dr. Marissa Pei, that's P for Positive e-i, your personal advocate to LiveLoveLaughLearn, aka "the kinder gentler Dr. Laura" on the air, and the Asian Oprah on TV and stage, and your personal mid-life crisis interventionist to help speak/MC at your next corporate/conference event, or facilitate strategic planning and team building, or work one-on-one with you, specializing in celebrity confidential clients and improve your happiness factor to 88 percent of the time. Call Dr. Marissa, your mid-life crisis interventionist at 562.881.9437 or email her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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